As you have probably heard, tomorrow is Valentine’s Day which either fills you with joy or, let’s say dread. If you hate romcoms, going on dates and soppy love ballads you will hate Valentine’s Day or you could have a bigger problem on your hands. Keep reading to find out if you have a Valentine’s related phobia.
Obligaphobia can often create a phobia of marriage as well as that is the ultimate act of commitment. The thought of having to commit to one person can cause anxiety and possibly even a panic attack. Causes of this phobia could stem from negative past experiences or simply the pressure of having to choose the right person in a world where we never know what’s to come.
Those with a phobia of love would rather have short and meaningless relations as they are terrified of falling in love with someone and being rejected. Usually, they want to have a meaningful connection with others but the fear overcomes the desire so they can become isolated.
Going on dates and meeting new people may be a challenge for someone with this phobia. Explaining to your date that you don’t want to kiss them in case they have bad breath or because they have too many germs in their mouth, would leave a bad impression.
Haphephobia/Touching & Being Touched
Another way to leave a bad impression would be telling your date to keep a certain distance from you for fear of touching them. They would likely feel offended and there would be little chance of ending the date on good terms and seeing them again. There are instances where the person who suffers from the phobia only fears being touched by the opposite gender which could link in with the fear of men (Androphobia) and women (Gynophobia).
Being alone on Valentine's day can cause several people to feel low. For a fraction of these people, the day is a nightmare. Seeing happy couples everywhere and being bombarded with Valentine adverts etc would only pronounce their fear of being alone. This phobia can occur even in those who are in a relationship but have anxiety about their partner leaving them and ending up alone.
Being intimate with someone else can be quite nerve-racking even for those who don’t have this phobia. Being intimate can bring up feelings of vulnerability. Those with the phobia may not show they it but are very secretive about it and therefore struggle with their feelings and issues on their own.
Any of the phobias above can cause serious damage to your life. Restricting what you can do and your relationships can lead to isolation, loneliness and depression. Although these phobias have severe effects on lives, they can be easy and quick to cure. All you have to do is take the first step. Book a free phone consultation today by clicking below.